A Critical Tongue

Dale Carnegie was a great philanthropist and a pioneer of success training. He wrote, How to Win Friends and Influence People, which has remained high on best-seller lists for half a century! Here's what he had to say about a critical tongue.

Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth, became so diplomatic, so adroit at handling people that he was made United States Ambassador to France. The secret of his success? 7 will speak ill of no man," "...and speak all the good I know of everybody."

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable...than criticism; and it breeds sympathy...and kindness. As Dr Johnson said: "God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man till the end of his days." Why should you and I?

Those wise words by Dale Carnegie can do a lot of good if practiced. As another wise man said long ago in Proverbs 15:4, "A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit."